Codependents and Inverted Narcissists: Understanding the Relationship with the Narcissist
Have you ever heard of the term “inverted narcissist”? It’s not a well-known term, but it’s a type of codependent that is often in a relationship with a narcissist. Inverted narcissists have a different way of expressing their codependency, and it’s important to understand this dynamic to help them heal.
What is a Codependent?
A codependent is someone who relies on another person to fulfill their emotional needs. They often put their own needs aside to focus on their partner’s needs. Codependents often struggle with setting boundaries and have a hard time saying no.
What is an Inverted Narcissist?
An inverted narcissist is a type of codependent that is in a relationship with a narcissist. They have a strong need to be needed and will often sacrifice their own needs to meet the needs of their partner. Inverted narcissists have a tendency to idolize their partner and see them as perfect.
Do They Have Narcissistic Rages?
While inverted narcissists are not narcissists themselves, they can experience similar emotions to narcissistic rages. When their partner does not meet their needs, they may become angry and lash out. However, unlike a narcissist, they will often feel guilty for their behavior and apologize for it.
Relationship with the Narcissist
Inverted narcissists are often attracted to narcissists because they see them as strong and powerful. They believe that if they can win over the narcissist, they will feel complete. However, this is a dangerous dynamic because the narcissist will often use the inverted narcissist for their own needs.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s important to seek help. A therapist can help you understand the dynamic and provide tools to help you set boundaries and take care of yourself. Remember, you are worthy of love and respect, and you don’t have to sacrifice your own needs to meet someone else’s.
Understanding the relationship between codependents and narcissists is crucial to helping those who struggle with these dynamics. Inverted narcissists may not be well-known, but they require the same level of attention and care as any other codependent. If you or someone you know is in a relationship with a narcissist, seek help and support to break the cycle and heal. Remember, you are not alone, and there is always hope for a better future.
References for “The Inverted (Mirror) Narcissist” article
- Psychology Today – This article provides a detailed explanation of the inverted narcissist, including its causes and symptoms.
- Verywell Mind – This article discusses the concept of inverted narcissism and its relationship to traditional narcissism.
- GoodTherapy – This article explores the dynamics of the inverted narcissist and how it relates to codependency and traditional narcissism.
- YouTube video by Dr. Ramani Durvasula – This video explains the concept of inverted narcissism and provides examples of how it can manifest in relationships.
- “The Inverted Narcissist: Love and Codependency in the Narcissistic Relationship” by Sam Vaknin – This book provides an in-depth exploration of the inverted narcissist, including its origins, manifestations, and impact on relationships.
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